Does anyone out there know of a book that can help me sort out my life? Here is some background. I’ve been married for 23 years. I and the hubby have reached a pivital point in our lives where our focus has changed individually. For example: Husband wants to be less religious, wants to move to a semi secluded island and be a farmer all the natural days of his life until he dies even though he’s been in the US for 35 years. He’s 50. I desire to be more religious, want to stay in the US and spend the rest of my years with my family. I also told hubby that I'm not moving to some semi-deserted island where I have no family support.

Another problem I have is with my children ages 18, 20, 21. They come and go as they wish, do as they wish without respecting my home. They also are not that religious because they see their father isn’t so much so they have no respect for the way I feel. Hubby doesn’t do anything about the situation, because he doesn’t want to be a bad guy. So, any advice on books or personal advice will help. I'm considering marital therapy to sort all of this out but in the meantime any advice I get will surely help. Thank you all.