I'm just going to say that Leed is wrong.

Your wife should be the one that you tell your inner most secrets. If you're cheating on her, then she shouldn't be your wife.... You should indeed be honest if you were promiscuous. What if that promiscutity resulted in STDs or a child? That is something a wife needs to know.

A girlfriend may not always be there for you when a friend would. That's a sign that girl is wrong for you and shouldn't be your girlfriend or become your wife. But the girlfriend that becomes a wife should be 100% above all other people your best friend. "Bros before hoes" is only for those type of girls who won't be there for you and that you dump. This is where people are mixed up in our society. The idea that "friends will always be there but that girlfriend won't," is High School mentality. Yes, in junior high, high school, and even into college, that is a good rule of thumb. But as you become an adult you want an adult relationship with real meaning. Not fly by night. A marriage is so that two people support each other, uphold each other, defend each other, strengthen each other, etc. It isn't some casual relationship just for sex.

Society has become so messed up in this area. Divorce rates are so high because we see spouses as disposable. People marry for superficial reasons. They don't want to put in the work. Their wife gains 20 pounds and can't lose it, so she's not sexy enough and they run off with someone younger and skinnier. Her husband lost all his hair and has a beer gut, so she drops him to go with someone else. Men and women in the media treat each other like enemies and then people in life start doing it, too. It's horrible!

Friends are the people who come an go. Not your spouse. Friends are the people that disappear. You might find a "lifelong" friend, but that is very rare. Do you know the secret of those couples that last 60 years? They know friends come and go, but their marriage comes first. Marriage is work. True love is not a fairy tale. True love is waking up every morning and loving someone even if you're pissed off at them.

My dad is of the older generation. I can tell you that the day he was married he said to his friends, "I'm married now, it was nice knowing you guys." I am 100% serious. And they weren't mad. They understood. That's how it was. Your wife and kids came first, not your friends. Today it is backwards. Like my dad always said, and he was right, friends are nice. It's nice to go to a ball game or dinner or bowling league or whatever. But you go home to your family. They are what is important.

My mom was very social. She had a life long friend. She died so it was true. But did she ever go against my dad or disrespect him to hang out with her friend? No. Just like my dad said. It was nice for her to go skiing for a day or to go to an art showing or whatever fun thing with her friend. But at the end of the day, my dad was the person she came home to and he was her best friend. She was his best friend. And to this day 20 years later he misses her for that.

That's real marriage and that's what I would say the majority of marriages miss these days.