Yeah, people get pretty defensive when they feel like they're being accused of something.

I understand where you're coming from and I think a lot of us on here do. I'm really sorry that you're feeling this way and I wish I had something to say to help you understand or to make it better. I don't. If I did, I would apply it to my own life. What I do know is that my defense mechanisms in relationships are dysfunctional, which cause people to pull away from me, which only makes me feel more defensive/sad/lonely/angry so I lash out more, which makes people pull away more and makes them defensive...vicious cycle. Idk if you're experiencing any of that, but this is my experience. If I knew what to do about it, I would.



Oh and how to care less about what other people think? Yeah, I don't know really. I mean, I've read some great (kinda inappropriate, haha ) blog posts but what it boiled down to is that yeah, people are going to talk about and judge you. Everyone deals with that--everyone! But (and this is the hard part for me) the best part of it is that it doesn't matter--I think once I make peace with the fact that yeah, people will always judge me--I'll be able to embrace the fact that there is nothing that it can really do to hurt me. I still wake up, take a shower, eat, go to work, and even though they judge me I don't fall down dead. You know? And there are billions of people on the earth. If I screw up or wear something stupid or say something people disagree with well, in the grand scheme of things, it really doesn't matter all that much. They'll probably forget next week. If they don't they have a bigger problem than you.