CE, that's a good question.

I think it's more that being foul or rude toward me would definitely get my hackles up and I would verbally fight (fight, flight, freeze) instead of the freezing I do so much. But him sitting there being accepting and kind and asking me about things makes me just blah when expressing myself.

I have crazy transference with T1 though. If he raises and eyebrow at me I can turn into an angry puddle of tears. T2 -- not so much.