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Originally Posted by steel_x
Hi, I was just wondering if this is abuse or not. This is the closest sub-forum for this I could find.
My former friend turned me down for a date and then she refused to talk to me and blocked me on Facebook because she though I was being "creepy". She was really mean rejecting me, said she wouldn't go out with a loser like me.
We eventually made up again, but then I got jealous when I found out about other things she was doing without me, and started sending her emails and texts calling her names, intending to hurt her emotionally to get revenge. She told me to stop it and grow up, so I left her for a while and then did it about 2 or 3 more times because I'm so angry at her, I want her to hurt. I tried apologizing to her and she said I was abusing her and if I didn't stop contacting her and stay away from her she would seriously consider getting the police involved. I didn't mean to let my emotions get out of control like this. What should I do?
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Yes, you are abusing/bullying her. To put it simply. My advice is to stop and keep away before she or her parents get a Court Injunction (US: restraining order) on you which means you will be arrested anytime you contact her and you will end up with a criminal record. An Injunction is civil, but it will show up in any enhanced CRB checks as you will be flagged as a risk. Not to be harsh, but you need to get over her. Harassing her is only turning her more and more against you and making yourself feel bad (evidently by your post on this forum). Is this worth effing your future up over? So 5-10 years down the road you find your employment and travelling prospects limited all because of a tiff like this? I think you should not only get over her but get away from her as a friend, the friendship is a broken mirror and you will need absence to help you move on, otherwise the temptation to be nasty and jealous will still be there. I am not being judgmental, I've done screwed up things out of jealousy and plain despair myself, and the damage it causes is never good. There's a thin line between being devious/spiteful and being literally criminal.