I say no, stick with the one papa bear you got, backup T. now I see why the dom. I used to tell my t/pdoc that "all men are mine" - I may not have ONE of my own, but all my male workmates were "mine". They nicknamed me after Anna Nichole, but I look more like Rosanne, only not as good - THAT'S a seductive personality!

I started my therapy with my current T with the book ATTACHMENT by David Wallin (so did skysblue, btw) - just trying to figure out what was SUPPOSED to have happened in those early years, and what did not happen, what i'm missing because of it, what i'm unknowingly doing to compensate for what I don't know I missed! You don't know what you don't know, is a big part of the problem - you know?? Borrow books from your T. DW Winnicott is who my T recommended most, he's more philosophical, but awesome. And there is a LOT of help on here, some ubersmart, very well read peeps, just ask. I'm so excited for you!