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Originally Posted by Towanda
This is SO me - the exact same thing happens to me, right down to the getting angry, tears well up, lump in throat, chest tightness, then I shut down every time. I don't know why. T and I are working on this - I just sent him a long email with a copy of a post on a thread in here about crying in therapy. Made me feel very vulnerable - I'm a little embarrassed now to face him on Friday but my need is too great to keep avoiding this issue.
Wish I knew what the answer was....  |
Thanks, Towanda. Did you send your T my post: A safe place to cry?
I know the "vulnerable after sending an email" feeling very well.
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Originally Posted by TheBunnyWithin
It's fascinating to me to see all the different opinions and responses about crying. I don't cry with anger - when I'm angry, I'm angry.  But I do cry fairly easily with hurt and sadness. I've hit on some deep, deep sadness in therapy the last few months and there have been a lot of tears. But I haven't cried in front of T, although my eyes have welled up a few times and I've gotten all choked up.
Somehow I see it as a sign of weakness - shameful, embarrassing. If I cry in front of him, then he wins. |
Thanks, Bunny. I see it that way too. And in the session I transcribed, T said there are people who do that..."you almost got me...but I won."
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Originally Posted by sconnie892
Chopin
You're comment on crying out of frustration really struck a cord with me. I am going to have to think about this some more.
Sorry this is painful for you, but it does sound like a breakthrough. |
Thanks, sconnie.
I think it is a breakthrough and one of the ways I know it is now I'm looking forward to T on Wednesday so it can be handled. It wasn't pleasant by any means, but I like moving forward and this feels like progress!