dang. somehow this thread, while it has been good to work through things, has been exhausting for me - ha, I feel like I was in therapy today.

I am wiped out to the max. for a lot of other reasons too ... just a hot, humid day and I was busy and the kids were ornery ....
but I really didn't want to end up discussing me; I really wanted people's thoughts about the respect question. well, I guess I did get some of that, so I don't need to be whining! sheesh, shut up, SR.
anyway, I didn't mean for my thread to turn into me doing all these long monologues or novels on my life or whatever. I feel a bit disappointed/displeased I did that ....
but thanks for all the support, posted and unposted alike (since I know some probably didn't post because my big, deep issues seem to be hot button, triggering type topics).