Hello chick!

Am sorry that this guy didnt work out, and that your shyness stopped things going further.

I dont know what to suggest, other than just looking after yourself? Have you ever thought of joining classes, like drama or suchlike, to help you boost your confidence? These things take time, but they are so worth it!

My other half was very shy when we met nearly 5 years ago, and there are still elements of it that remain, but when we met we went out to dinner (he'd never eaten out because so shy), we went to gigs, shows etc. I gently teased him over his hangups (like he always though perfect strangers were judging him). I gently pushed him out of his comfort zone of always staying in and avoiding people and got him to see what I see - and thats what a lovely, funny and kind man he is, and those that meet him love him too! He now says he wished he'd done it when he was younger, and he'd wasted so much time - he's so much happier now. Confidence affects so many aspects of a life, and its the most wonderful thing to have some of..

What am trying to say is if you spend some time in trying to control or overcome some of your shyness, learning what a catch you are, perhaps things like dating will come easier later on? And I'd like to say as an old fogey (I am 40!) that I met my partner, who I hope to marry (he likes the idea too!) at the age of 35. I didnt want relationships, I was working hard and having fun with my friends. 20 is still young, and if you dont want to date seriously yet or do the whole settling down thing, dont! It doesnt matter what your friends are doing, whats right for them might not be right for you. Enjoy yourself, be yourself, and everything will fall into place when you want it to.

x