I get that. that's how my mother kept me in line. but I ended up overreacting to her (which she didn't mind, as long as it kept me quiet and out of her way and not asking for stuff and totally afraid of her) - but it doesn't work so good in real life with real people who had absolutely no idea why I was jumping thru invisible hoops, saying sorry all the time, and assuming stuff from their facial expression when they weren't even thinking about me.