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Originally Posted by stopdog
Could you or would you describe how it is useful to you? What does it do for you to have them validated by someone else? I am not criticizing here - I just do not understand. I understand how me validating me is useful, but not how someone else, certainly not some therapist, helps.
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I lack the skill, knowledge, ability, SOMETHING to validate my own feelings. Validating my own feelings feels like I'm making excuses for myself -- feeling sorry for myself -- being a pansy. For whatever reason, it takes a calm, rational outsider saying, 'No, that WAS a horrible thing they did to you. It's normal to be angry and sad at the same time about that happening. It wasn't your fault and it's horrible and maddening that they would do that to you and then blame you for it," before I feel like my feelings are normal. Like *I* am normal and okay.