Having them validated at all - that's what is important for me - as I learn to trust myself and learn the whole "me validating me" thing. I was brought up in a family that thought and still think that "feelings" and "emotions" are bad things. And it just so happens that feelings and emotions are what I am all about.
It's the poet in me, which I have found back thanks to my t. I had stopped writing many-many years ago and just locked up that part of myself and by working with my t we found the dungeon I'd locked my writer self up in, and opened it up and set it free. That's been a major high point of my therapy in the last 8 months is that I'm writing again, which all started with my t saying to me "what's wrong with that? You were feeling it." about something I'd told her. I don't know if I explained or not........ i tried!