wow your doctor sounds like a real asshole. hasn't he ever heard of "health at every size"?

i'd get a new doctor if i were you. one who is a bit more sensitive. the comment about your breasts was way way out of line if you ask me.

as for your t, you say you make a pro and con list and the pro list is longer, but maybe you should be considering what each thing on the list means to you. like "close to home" is a pro but it doesn't cancel out "doesn't understand me" if you know what i mean?