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Originally Posted by kiki86
i feel like i want to talk to my t as well but i know it would never be "one last time" i hate that i can't talk to him. i don't know if it helps that it wasn't his choice or mine for us to part.
the thing is that you need to deal with the loss and if you keep the door open you never will. i think that's the whole point of no contact after termination. you will deal with other losses in life and this is an opportunity for you to learn to deal. to see that you will come through it no matter how painful.
i know that things with your T weren't always smooth. have you considered just getting a new T, especially as you don't feel like you were done with therapy.
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Hi Kiki,
hope you are doing alright after your termination? x
You are absolutely right, I do need to deal with loss as its something I have always struggled with, so many people have left without expalnation or even a goodbye!
I can deal with if somebody dies, as painful as that is but when someone is alive and well and you have to just accept its over; this I struggle with. I know there has to be an end to therapy eventually but I was not nearly ready to end it with her...yest is was never really smooth, but therapy isn't supposed to be and I have realised that she pushed my buttons to try to release my anger but it never worked in session, everything she did that upset me had a purpose; this termination was to let me deal with letting go... she said that it is never easy but one can ;earn a great deal from this... she also said that I have come on leaps and bounds since my first session and I should be proud but I am not.
I have a brand new T but I don't really gel with him...he is very hard to talk to not like my old T who I could say anything to