Thanks everyone. Youve all been extremely helpful. It never bothered me had an ex wife but where the issue lies is the multiple lines she crosses. My husband told me he was never in love with her that he had self confidence issues at the time and i believe him. The issue is that she has professed her love for him on a few occasions and also uses the kid as a pawn and is to stupid to realize who she is truly hurting. He has talked to his parents but it goes through one ear and right out the other. His whole family told me in the beginning they hated her but still have over the line contact. So with that i feel lied to and feel like they wanted me to feel welcome but never realized the hurt. I know my marriage certificate doesnt have his family written in but to me its important to keep things civil since my husband is very close to them. And i try to keep things at bay with everyone because me and my husband have a 9 month old and he doesnt deserve to put up with all this non sense. But now my patience is running thin with everyone and i hate to put it that way but its like they just dont care. The call his ex to get the kid then tell us that you have him today with absolute no consideration of plans or other things. Im just so mentally exhausted from all this crap. I love my husband to death and wouldnt trade nothing for him but this is insane!!!