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Originally Posted by stopdog
I don't think it is any better to be all ****ed up for no good reason. At least with a horrible past there is a reason for it. It does not help with having had to live through such a thing of course, but it is not really better that I can see to be simply an idiot about life.
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Did I write this post and forget about it??
Anyway, yes, I do have "this thing" (so I'm not completely identical to stopdog in every respect). With my first T, ten years ago or so, I suspected after 6-7 months that she would start asking about that part of my life, and so I stopped going to see her. Not a very good termination. With second T, I stayed away from that part of my life completely and she never asked about it at all. I did not want to confide in her to that degree - and it was partly that realisation that made me decide to stop going to therapy with her. I did not terminate abruptly or badly this time, though. And then I went to current T, and he knew that I had not been honest about everything with exT (long story) so he asked me straight out in our first "real" therapy session whether I thought I would be able to talk to him about whatever it was. So I told him.
It's still "that thing" which I won't bring up unprompted (I think), but at least it is not unmentionable any longer.