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Originally Posted by hankster
omg I did actually once tell a T "I'm seeing someone else". I saw the new guy, a psychiatrist, in the morning, and quit the old guy, just a psychologist, in the afternoon. I TOTALLY recommend you do the same. Don't try to do this alone. Even if you end up just seeing this new person for a transition period, until you find "the best" T fit for your circumstances. Just find somebody safe for now. We are all on your side and hope the best for you.  actually I wouldn't even go back to your old T. if he is truly sorry, he can report himself. otherwise, what does he have to say to you that could possibly make any difference? I would be afraid to be alone with him now, but then i'm a little crazy. |
Hankster's post has a great deal of wisdom in it. Read and reread it.
I particularly agree with not going back to see this old T at all. Nothing good will come of it. He will either deny any wrong-doing, or he will blame you, or he will manipulate you into staying so he can continue to harm you. He won't admit his wrongs. He won't apologize and even if he does it will probably be in a last ditch effort to keep you from reporting him. He won't be able to make this any easier for you. This is not and cannot be a healthy termination; there is too much dysfunction in that therapy relationship.
Find a therapist to help you through this. Yes, you might need to try a few to find the right fit, but have someone to help you from the very start.
I am so incredibly relieved to hear you are doing this for yourself.