I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with all this. But there may be some good news.

First, "probable features" of a PD does not = that PD. Oftentimes it's just shoddy guesswork by a T or pdoc who can't figure out what's really going on. I've had "features" of several PDs come & go from my chart, only to learn they were just episodic aspects of undiagnosed bipolar. A lot of inaccurate, half-baked stuff can end up in patient charts. Plus, a family T is not necessarily qualified to make a thorough individual dx. And how old were you when your family saw this T? ASPD cannot be dxd until at least age 18.

Second, a key trait of ASPD is a lack of empathy & remorse, which means you don't care that you're manipulating & hurting others. By definition, this means you don't care that you don't care. In other words, true anti-socials don't worry that they're anti-socials. Among other things, they don't turn to the Internet for insight & advice on their condition. One of the first giveaways you're not anti-social is that you fret about being anti-social. A real ASPD wouldn't waste the time. She'd just go on hurting others without a care in the world. And she wouldn't seek treatment of any kind unless it was forced on her.

I would suggest a much more thorough evaluation by a pdoc or T apart from family T, school psychologist, etc. If you genuinely think you have symptoms of mania, PD, etc., you need to get checked out. Winging it based on a glance at a chart when you were young may not be such a good idea.