I would think it would be something like this:

1. You don't feel like you have to email or call your therapist for every little "crisis" that comes up.

2. If you do email your therapist, you can allow some passage of time without hearing from them before thinking the worse.

3. You don't get jealous when your therapist talks about other patients or their own family members.

4. You don't stalk them. When the session is over, you don't hang around afterwards.

5. They don't have to be absolutely perfect all the time for you to think they like you. They can disagree with you or express disapproval about your behavior without you concluding they hate you.

6. You aren't constantly thinking they are going to fire you.

7. Your mind doesn't instantly turn to suicide at the thought of them not being around.

8. You are comfortable showing progress and getting better. You are more interested in your own wellness than being pitiable to your therapist.

9. You don't alter your life just so you can keep seeing your therapist. If you get a job offer in another state, you don't decline it just because you're afraid of losing your therapist.

Some of these I have struggled with. I deal with #1 more often than I'd like to admit. I have been guilty of #4, #7, and #8 (manufactured crisis anyone?) at some point in time. I try not to beat myself up over it, though.