Hi Wikidpissah - wow what a dilemma - the fact that Frau T said she would make an exception for you when you shared one of your issues means that she obviously has an interest and experience in one of the issues you want to explore and I also appreciate that this may be more difficult with a man.

But for me it isn't so important what specific experience a T has and in some ways if they claim to be an expert with a specific issue, I wonder whether they may pigeon hole me and think they know what my issues will be, rather than waiting to listen to find out.

I would go with the one, that my gut told me was the right one - so choose on the basis of feelings, rather than logic.