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Originally Posted by SoupDragon
I would go with the one, that my gut told me was the right one - so choose on the basis of feelings, rather than logic.
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hmmm...my feelings always do me wrong, but I totally see what you are saying. I need connection.
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Originally Posted by bamapsych
#1 seems to have alot of interest in you. I dont think she will reject you for having more issues. Maybe you can go for your first appt and ask her if she is willing to help you with other issues unrelated to your breasts.
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Thanks bama. I put this in my notepad for appt 2
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Originally Posted by Silent_tsol
These t's can sound great or ok or a little weird with first phone call but until you sit down with them in person you won't know if they fit or if they refuse to speak out loud in anything other than pig latin.
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There was something about her that I really liked. Just not the questions. Thanks for making me think about this.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
Wikid - you actually do not have to make a firm decision today, do you? Y
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Stopdog, you are always the voice of calm reason for me. "slow down wiki, it ain't time to decide yet"
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Originally Posted by adel34
Hi Wicky,
Well the first one does sound like she could help with your specific breast cancer recovery thing, and I certainly wouldn't want to talk about that with a man either!
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I couldn't do it with my last male T, but I think it's more about my thinking there is no way a man can understand about loosing your breasts.
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Originally Posted by sunrise
I think you should tell the female T that you have other issues besides the breasts that you would like to work on and ask if she can provide therapy for those things too, or does she just do body issues?
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Thanks sunny. I will ask her this, it is definitely a good way of approaching it.
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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna
Didn't you say you have already seen Frau T before?
1.We are looking for someone who is in it for the long haul.
2. No deal breaker behaviors - ie. pornwatcher 
I completely understand not being comfortable with women. I say give em both a fair shot and lay out the cards. You'll know. |
Nope, this was a first appt. I would like whomever I choose to be long haul. no porn allowed. I think I will try to be honest if I go again with her. Then again, just processing the boobs for several weeks would be a nice break from my incessant personality issues.
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Originally Posted by geez
I would go with the female T as the you are too uncomfortable talking to a male T about the mastectomy. But as others have said I would also tell her some of the other issues/topics you have. Perhaps you can process the mastectomy subject with her and move on if she can't help you with your other topics? Big Hugs!!!  |
That's a good point, thanks geez.
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Originally Posted by SallyBrown
I would bet that Frau T expects that you have other issues, and is focused on what you said about mastectomy stuff because it resonates so much with her how hard it can be to find the right person to talk about that stuff with, and she's excited to be the right person for someone.
If only you could combine them both into one T...
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Yes. a masculine woman. Shouldn't be difficult to find around here. She definitely headed all over the place.
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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna
Even if you decided to go back to Frau T you aren't the first person who lied to her and you wont be the last.
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awwww....hugs. I am not the only liar on the planet? Wow.
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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
Months and months after the fact (it maaaaaay have been more than a year later), I confessed to my T that I lied to him in those initial appointments. He was like, 'yeah, I know. Everyone does.'  Have I mentioned how much I love him? |
ha. I think she knew I was lying cause she asked one question a million times. She was trying to trip me up.
But ... I DID like her, and I made eye contact and everything. Other than the questions and lies it wasn't half bad.
