They are few and far between, but you, I, all of us, need to find a therapist who specializes in BPD. Most therapists, like most people, don't get it and a lot of older therapists basically believe that we're lost causes. I've seen a lot of websites that basically say that, and when I went to a therapist and asked to be tested for BPD, they basically refused saying that we had to look at other options first because "BPD is almost impossible to treat". Biggest reason I could find for this theory is that some of us are known to turn on our therapists and a lot of therapists are not willing to take the risk. Isn't part of the whole relationship issues thing? When I searched for books on BPD, it was very difficult to find any directed towards the sufferer. Most were directed towards the family and friends of BPD sufferers and a lot of them said it not so many words that if you have a loved-one with BPD you're a goner. Isn't nice to know that we're so abhorred by most of the psychiatric community?