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Originally Posted by Chopin99
Me: *Meandered around 3 subjects*
T: I really lost you there; could you draw me a diagram (draws diagram in air)?
Me: Really?
T: Who do you think I am?
Me: Are you saying you're the pot calling the kettle black?
T: Exactly.
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
I don't understand this bit.
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T is the one who meanders in conversation and goes off on rabbit trails when she is talking. That's why I said, "Really?" when she asked me this...I thought she was making fun of me. When she said, "Who do you think I am?" she was alluding to the fact that
she is the one that is normally doing this. "The pot calling the kettle black" is an idiom used to claim that a person is guilty of the very thing of which they accuse another.
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Originally Posted by Chopin99
I said I thought she seemed embarrassed about crying in front of me. She said she wasn't embarrassed about crying. She said that she felt unworthy of what I'd written; that she didn't deserve it. I said, "Really?" She nodded sheepishly. Here was "the picture of emotional health" saying that she felt undeserving of gratitude and praise from a client.
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
If I understand you right, you are suggesting that T is not as emotionally healthy as you had hoped.
But I read it exactly the opposite: emotionally healthy people are allowed to have feelings, to be vulnerable, to cry.
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I'm basically reacting to the fact that she felt
unworthy and undeserving of my praise and gratitude. She is constantly trying to convince me of my inherent worth and that I am deserving of good things. However, she found herself in the same place in which I tend to dwell full-time. Also, upon reflection, I believe what I saw as "embarrassment" was actually surprise on her part that she reacted that way. She actually said at the time that she
needed to hear what I had to say. I just didn't discern correctly what she meant at the time.
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Originally Posted by Chopin99
I realized after I left that she never answered how she felt about my making excuses about exercise, asking for the longer hug, and wanting me to go away. I know that isn't the most important part, and I see the fact that I realize that as progress. However, I wanted to ask, so I sent the following email...
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
I empathise with this. I always feel cheated when T hasn't answered my questions.
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I don't feel cheated. I haven't heard back from her via email and I'm okay with that. I will simply ask her at the start of my next session. Most likely, she will answer honestly and she probably wants to explain herself in person.
Thanks for your feedback because it really helped me see some things in a new light!
