First I think that you are everything you used to be, that nothing disappears from who you are, even if all you are isn't presently in the world right now. You are still all of you, although I know what it's like to feel incomplete, or to be missing something or somebody.

I am sorry that it feels like things are bad inside, that there are some that have turned against yourselves. For me, I am not DID, but I do have experiences with younger versions of myself inside, and things for me are really at their worst when I am not compassionate and tender towards them. Things will get better.

I am also married to someone who can get really wrapped up in himself and whatever it is that he is doing. I have also found that when I reach out to him, he is often feeling that I am ignoring him (because I can get wrapped up in myself too). I guess that I have learned that usually if I ask to talk or spend time together, he is happy to do that, but he was feeling pushed away by me while I was feeling ignored by him. Sort of a vicious circle. Maybe it would help to ask for you all and the dogs to spend time together?