Hi everyone - My story is probably unique. Ten years ago, I had an indiscretion - infidelity - . Although my husband says he forgives me and we've gone through marriage counseling, he keeps mentioning the guy and wants to visit and sleep with him. He keeps telling me to come on to the guy so that when I go to see him, he'll have an idea of what's in store. The guy is a good person and could be a friend of mine, but it's hard for me to reconcile visiting him and sleeping with him with my moral code, even if my husband sanctions it. My husband takes every opportunity to make sexual jokes about the guy and what will go on between the two of us. I'm going to movies with him on Thursday because I have no choice. My husband pouts and makes life difficult for me if I refuse. I feel like an emotional prisoner. My mother abused me as a child- until the teen years - and I think I have unwittingly continued the pattern. Any thoughts? I have three children - and really don't want to break up the family. HELP