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Originally Posted by agatha9
I started hitting myself, until I realized it was completely mad and I made a commitment with myself never to do it again. I've been holding on for two years now and I have hit myself only once or twice, but that's just when things go completely out of control, because of a really long fight.
I don't how I'm going to do it, but I have to start telling myself "no". "Don't smoke", "don't spy on him", "don't go outside without your jacket", "don't drink coffee after 7pm". I want to be a healthy person and the only way to do it, is by taking care of myself.
So, from now on, I decided I will start smoking less, eating three times a day instead of just once or twice. While I'm sick, I'm determined not to smoke a sinlge cigarrette. I know it won't be easy, but I made a promise to quit smoking altogether the day after my birthday and that's just four months from now.
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First off, congratulations on the good work you have done with the hitting of yourself! Look at that as you try to tackle other difficult habits? You can do it there so you can probably do it elsewhere!
But second, it's easier to replace bad habits with good ones than to just "stop" bad habits. Our brain can't just stop like that, habits are ingrained in our synapses and we have no way to fight them, make them just cease. We have to get the habit doing something else we want it to be doing instead.
I highly recommend this book:
http://charlesduhigg.com/the-power-of-habit/