Leed thanks. I hate being caught in this mental limbo. I am seeing more and more that he is not changing. The T has something up her sleve and on her mind, I don't claim to be psysic but I can feel it. We , the T and I are considering the lesser extreme of the two options. She suggested I go ahead and get a lawyer, or at least contact one and get a free assessment of what kind of things I can be instore for. What I can expect as far as child support is concerned, the house and such things. The other option was to take a small seperation, 4 months - 6 months. Continue to work on ourlseves w/ the T and work on things together as well if I/we feel so compelled leaving more time for me to find out relevent information and to see what life is like alone. (which I am pratically doing anyway) And give him a chance to see what life is like alone to. I think that would be the easier of the two options. I don't think I would feel so pressured to stay. It would be easier to leave for good. Who knows he may have a change of heart and quit being difficult. I may see that the income arrangements are not going to be sufficiant. I don't think this will be the case. I have no money and have not worked in 15 years. I've raised these kids alone this far. So who knows. We meet w/ the T on Tuesday and I am curious how things are gonna go.