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Originally Posted by TrulyRose
I tend to get very mad over very small things, like repetitive noise/sounds and movement. I don't give any warning before I snap. The anger just builds so quickly and I end up screaming at whomever is causing me to become angry. I mean things that are so small like my husband sitting on the other end of the couch with his foot over his knee twirling his foot right at the corner often eye and I just snap at him. Any ideas on how I can deal with this in a more calm way?
Thanks.
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Well, there is a space between sensing anger and expressing it. You may feel like you snap, but you don't. There is a moment in there where you can decide how to react.
Controlling yourself means making that moment longer and longer and longer in order to give yourself the opportunity to be in control.
I think expanding that space means being aware of how you are feeling. This lack of awareness is likely what is causing you to feel like you snap. Periodically "check in" and see how you feel.
If you're angry, begin to ask yourself why? You might not be angry at all, but disappointed or sad or fearful.