Yeah - I would find that very upsetting. I'd want to know WHY T needs more details when you're not ready to give them. I'd want to know WHY T says that you have to do one of these two programs, and how she things they would benefit you. I'd want to know why you have to be led through the programs.

It's been my experience that the most effective therapy is when it's client driven and when it moves at the pace the client needs. (at least, that's true for me...others may find differently). Personally, if my T gave me those options or pushed me for more info than I was ready to share, without giving me some really, really good reasons for it...I'd drop her and find someone new.

T is not an "authority" figure, and really shouldn't be. You are paying them for their professional opinion, but it's your decision whether or not to follow that opinion. They are not in charge of your decision making, and unless you're a danger to yourself or others, they can't really force you in to anything either.