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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna
You have discussed your concerns and fears with her?
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No I am afraid to because anytime I do this I get terminated.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
I forget if you have already explained this, but can you go to a different set of them? Or have you tried telling this one how you see it going and perhaps she will explain.
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I could try going to see someone else but that would mean having to go through everything again, I have started new with three ts in the space of three years and I can't start all over again
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Originally Posted by Antimatter
(((((Button)))))),
I am sorry this is so painful for you  It must be difficult to realize that you are attached and also to realize that your T's boundaries are loose. It sounds like you want firm boundaries? But to ask for them, that would end the illusion that T could be a parent and could fill the emptiness. It sounds like this is a difficult situation. What do you plan to do about this? Are you going to talk to T about it? I feel for you, and I know you will work through this in time, although it may not feel like it right now.
In the meantime sending you tons of hugs and peace. Take care of YOU.  |
Thank you Anti,
I am not sure what to do about it because lately I have been feeling like t doesn't understand me at all, she has no idea what I am going through and it hurts. Yesterday she reminded me again that I have no one in my life who cares about me but yet I long for someone who cares and her saying this confirms it and then I start to get down again and it hurts all over again.
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Originally Posted by Freefall1974
Button30- listen to your gut feeling. There seems to be way too much disclosure on her part, which is a waste of your time and money. Perhaps a little disclosure here and there is ok and therapeutic. But watch those boundaries. You know from our PM's what happened to my therapy, and how the abrupt ending has been so difficult. I felt sucked in to the attachment also. And felt spat out, run over, and pissed on by a passing goat. Maybe that is why I am still so pissed....  |
Freefall, I know that your experience has not been very therapeutic and in some ways I am afraid of getting pissed on too. Sometimes I wonder why we put ourselves through all of this.
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Originally Posted by "Tilly may"
wow I really feel for you. I would continue to try and maintain boundaries. In your mind you have to remember that she is not your mom or friend like you said. This can be so difficult. I am going through a similar situation. Im just trying to not be a stalker and not email or call my T. good luck and know that you are not alone and we are all cheering for you. hugs
Cyn
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Tilly
The stalker thing is hard for me to control too..I am not a stalker but everyday I want to contact t. I don't. In fact I never ring this t or text her unless its about an appt change which has only happened twice but I want to text her and be close to her. She told me that she was out the other night and got no sleep because of the storm and I wanted to give her a hug.