Oh no worries HB. I understand your perspective, and I completely understand your mindset of still being attracted to your ex 2nd H. I still occasionally get an emotional pang or two (lol perhaps among others... ) for my ex, and that was an utter nightmare. I wouldn't go so far as to compare the two...just offering my closest experience.

He sounds like a great guy, and offering so much to someone in the example you posed in the woman he helped is certainly commendable. I just want HB to be happy in the long term, is all, and hence my post.