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Originally Posted by Harley47
Oh no worries HB.  I understand your perspective, and I completely understand your mindset of still being attracted to your ex 2nd H. I still occasionally get an emotional pang or two (lol perhaps among others...  ) for my ex, and that was an utter nightmare. I wouldn't go so far as to compare the two...just offering my closest experience.
He sounds like a great guy, and offering so much to someone in the example you posed in the woman he helped is certainly commendable. I just want HB to be happy in the long term, is all, and hence my post. |
Thank you Harley! Yes, according to his story which I do not have reasons to doubt, he went to great lengths. The woman expected him to lose his temper every time she (in her mind of course) did something wrong - because her previous partner did that. Randy, every time it happened, assured her that he is not this kind of guy, that he would not lose his temper, and that she did nothing wrong in the first place. And that repeated again and again, many times, until the woman became more confident and less fearful. That he had the patience to repeat the same thing to the woman again and again without getting annoyed that she is not getting the message instantly is great, I think. I imagine that it would have been difficult for me to say the same reassuring sentence again and again.