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Originally Posted by JLarissaDragon
Hitting is always a huge red flag regardless of whether one thinks humans are animals or not. I suppose it is a matter of what happens in the future. If it happened once and never again I would be hurt but would forget it. If it is a pattern and he cannot handle his anger, I would get out quickly.
I was hit and abused by my first husband. I thought I deserved it and did not know any better. It is a horrible thing to become dependent on someone who abuses you. Once it becomes a pattern and an acceptable way for him to channel his anger it can be come really dangerous. Be careful and have a back up plan to stay safe.
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I had past abusive relationships as-well, even one where the guy raped me. He knows of these things and got mad at me when I flinched because I thought he was going to hit me, he took it as offense that I instantly thought he would start abusing me. He got into the habit where he kissed me after I flinched...I got comfortable knowing he wouldn't hurt me, I was glad I was in a relationship I could be proud of then he started making all the chores my responsibility then started humiliating me in-front of his friends and family to verbal/mental abuse to "accidentally hitting me in the arm when he meant to grab me"...