Unfortunately, if/when you have children, she won't be able to miss days of "work." This is part of the reason I want to get as mentally (and physically) healthy as I can before I have children. But something kind of struck me... Would she be interested in having an in-home daycare business? She'd get to stay home and take care of children, without having any of her own yet, but also be contributing to your financial situation.

I can't remember if you said anything about her being in therapy? It might be helpful to her; it sounds like she is possibly still depressed and still dealing with the aftermath of the abuse from her ex. Only now, instead of pot, she's using video games to cope. It could also be the reason why she's struggling to find any passion in her life or goals she wants to achieve.

I hope you two can get through this.