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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
I think what I am talking about are things that seem objectively true to me or seem objectively wrong under all circumstances. Like the desire to enmesh another person and/or force them to accede to your will. That seems objectively wrong to me and connotates a complete complete disregard for the other person's autonomy.
[suddenly noticing how much my language changes when I'm talking directly to you, stopdog. That strikes me as very funny for some reason.]
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I think maybe this does not bother me because I know someone else can't enmesh me. (except perhaps therapists - they are wily). I don't know why I see this as different when I have such a strong and huge deal about autonomy and personal freedom, except I don't see how someone wanting to enmesh with me will make me succumb to it. For the most part
I see that as a future with me doomed to failure for them that I don't really have to get involved with.
I more fear bullying from those who believe theirs is the one true way and will stop at nothing to insist everyone go along with them (the state, doctors, prison guards etc) where I cannot opt out and just be left alone. I see those who want to enmesh and boundary stomp as unable to do so as my boundaries are strong and they aren't really going to be able to get to me if I don't let them. I am not doing a great job at explaining what I see as the difference here. I will think and try. I have to go to a hearing now.
The language thing is funny.