After all you've been through, just breathing for a bit sounds about right to me.

There will be ups and downs - grief has such a lively unpredictable nature, but I can promise you that the downs will become further and further apart.

Day by day will soon turn into a chunk of time during which you will have lived your life, loved your family, and experienced a whole range of things this crazy, fantastic, wild earth has to offer.

It'll be okay.

One thing I will tell you from experience, however, grief and really really good chocolate go very well together. The deep notes in the grief and the depth of the chocolate seem to be in perfect accord.

Chocolate never, ever tasted better than after I ended with my previous therapist.

It's a small consolation, but, well, an entirely pleasant one.