Wiki...I'm sorry you had to deal with your mother doing that today. Many times, people who are BPD have no idea what they are doing, especially if they are not ready to change anything. At first when I read what happened, I agreed with stopdog's response; then once I thought about it, realized that since she (and only she) can want to change. If she is dead-set against that, no amount of explanation would have done any good. Today you helped her experience natural consequences, the best type in which to learn. Unless she truly lives in her own world, at which point nothing will help.

Why can't you have vodka?