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Originally Posted by CantExplain
I read her my transcript of our last session. I was surprised to find that she didn’t contradict me.
We talked about notes in general. Her argument was that I should speak from the heart and in the moment, and I don’t deny that this has produced some good results. But it devalues all the hard work I did during the week.
At the end she urged me not to send her any more emails.
T: It’s too important for that.
Me: I wouldn’t normally have done it, but I was in unbearable turmoil and I felt I had to do something. But I’ll do my best not to send you any more. In fact, I promise not to do it any more.
T: Don’t promise. Doing your best will be enough. Black and white thinking again, you see!
Well, that’s the other reason I take notes. If I can write a note and read it to her later, surely that is better than sending an email? So I am going to continue to write notes, and if time permits I shall catch up with the ten pages I failed to read today.
Me: By the way, I saw the Aspergic assessor today and I wanted to tell you about that. But there’s no time.
T: Tell me next week.
Just as well I made some notes, eh?
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Your T makes me anxious...you are more tolerant than I am. I kind of want to use that smack-my-head-against-a-wall icon now, but I am still assessing exactly why.
I wrote down everything my ex-T said. It drove him nuts...I also had a better memory than he did. It was very important on more than one occasion when I needed to be validated because he was sure he "didn't say that". Um yes you did. I have hundreds of pages typed up from when I saw him over 1 year and 3 months.
Your situation is a bit different but it reminded me a bit of the same...perhaps that is why I am feeling the reaction I am. Except mine never upset me, it was more of a power struggle...yours befuddles me. But then, I am tired.

Excuse me if I said anything out of line. She is a mystery to me.