Your T makes me anxious...you are more tolerant than I am. I kind of want to use that smack-my-head-against-a-wall icon now, but I am still assessing exactly why.
I wrote down everything my ex-T said. It drove him nuts...I also had a better memory than he did. It was very important on more than one occasion when I needed to be validated because he was sure he "didn't say that". Um yes you did. I have hundreds of pages typed up from when I saw him over 1 year and 3 months.
Your situation is a bit different but it reminded me a bit of the same...perhaps that is why I am feeling the reaction I am. Except mine never upset me, it was more of a power struggle...yours befuddles me. But then, I am tired.
Excuse me if I said anything out of line. She is a mystery to me.