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Originally Posted by Roadie
Greetings, YellowCalendar. As long as this is, so much real data is missing that I can only make a stab at any sort of response. If I'm way off--calmly fix my mistaken understandings of your post, okay?
Because of the tightness of this group I'm guessing you're fairly young--middle school, high school at the most--and with little to no sexual experience. I think tightness of the group might have contributed to the John-Mary connection. You saw no one outside this tight group, I gather? This is somewhat abnormal, unless you're very young.
When you say, "I tried to take John back," how do you do that? Actively take? Doesn't sound too mature, on the face of it.
I'm still unsure about how old you are now--or were when all this started. It seemed to me you've been too enclosed in this small, self-feeding group ... it seems to be all you've known. I think you need to take a break, some time getting to know who you are and what you want.
Maybe some therapy ... early days for that. Post here. Ask questions. See how it's gone for others. Get to know yourself again!
roadie
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I appreciate the response, I am a third year university student. I use to be strongly religious, so did not have my first boyfriend until I was 16 years of age. Most of my relationships (4 in total) were, on average, a year long. My longest being 3 years. This also explains why I did not lose my virginity until I was 20- so you are correct in saying I have little sexual experience.
What did you mean by "I saw no one outside this tight group"? If you're referring to dating, this was the first time I've dated someone within this group, or a friend in general. If you mean spend time with, then yes- I rarely spend time with the people outside this group.
I meant I tried to date him again and make things work. Not take him away from someone else.
Hope this clarifies!