Hi woundedhearts. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time right now. My t gives me hugs "from afar" so to speak. I have never felt safe enough for anyone to give me a hug and even though t is safer to me than anyone else, hugs are still out. So she tells me to imagine her giving me a hug and know that if she could, she would. Sometimes it makes me feel ick and I can't do it, but sometimes inside I feel that yes, it's okay. Maybe you can imagine your t hugging you for times when you don't have someone in real life. Younger parts here apparently do not want anyone near them let alone touch or hug them but sometimes the thought of a hug from a distance helps.. sometimes not. Eh, I'm too messed up for hugs mostly lol. Sorry wounded hearts. I so hope you find what you are looking for. I wish you so much peace during this time.

We have finally come to understand that our T is someone who cares for us unconditionally though. That's almost like a hug. I wish the same for you soon.