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Originally Posted by tinyrabbit
I think she is massively overstepping the boundaries. Is she in private practice or does she have, like, a boss or something?
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She is in private practice, no boss
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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
I understand how painfully sad you feel. 
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I feel like she is undermining my ability to look after myself and see my progress too. I like her a lt though and I can also see she is trying to help. I am torn about it
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Originally Posted by ScrewedUpMe
I agree. This doesn't sound right or ethical at all. I am wondering if your therapist has children or is she trying to fulfill that role with you?
I think a therapist has to be very careful not to persuade the client into something they don't need or want to do, especially since they are receiving money for this. I don't understand why she keeps you 40 mins after a session. That is practically a whole other session.
My therapist has never, ever made contact with me outside of sessions unless I have contacted her first because she could be seen to be trying to gain income from doing so. She is very, very tentative about suggesting extra sessions etc. as she does not want me to feel obliged to do it to please her or for any other reason.
I really think you should let your therapist know that you are coping much better on your own and feel you are at the point of being more independent now but thank her for helping you to get there.
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She does have three children, I feel like she misses them a lt as she is always talking about them and how much she misses them. I know all of their names and what they do and which country they live in.
I have told my t that I am coping much better now and have shown her great progress lately - even my depression has improved- so she has helped me.
I do think that because I am in training to become a t, she thinks she can change the rules a bit and that would be ok but I am paying her for my therapy and I really needed her to be my t.
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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
This is your T who is also your teacher for T school, if I remember correctly? You wrote about a conflict here last week about your role as her client and as her student, and that seemed to upset you then. I think with this kind of dual role situation, this kind of thing is likely to continue to occur, especially if you don't discuss it with her. But since she's your teacher, her attempts at mentoring you, as it sounds like she's doing, might make you feel sad from your client perspective. I get why you feel that way, but I also think that it's important for you to be really clear about your dual roles and to let your T know that you feel upset.
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Hi Anne,
there seems to be some confusion. This t is not my teacher. She knows my two teachers and was a t teacher herself but she is not my T teacher, just my t. Maybe said something in my last post to indicate that. I gave up responding to my last post because I must have confused everybody because b the end of it, everyone thought she was my teacher. I would like to clarify that she is not my teacher. Sorry for the confusion.
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Originally Posted by adel34
I'm a little confused, I thought yoou were seeing a new t? Also, I didn't know she was your teacher as well as your t. I had a t who did with me before I knew it wasn't ethical, and yes it's complicated and there are good reasons why it's not ethical!
I also think she's really really overstepping the boundaries, particularly about keeping you 40 minutes after session, which as someone pointed out is like another session! And about wanting you to see her doctor and other things. I would tell her how you feel about all this and that you want and need more independence.
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Hi Adel,
I went to see a new t but she is really sick at the moment and will be out of office for the forseeable future until she recovers, so I continued to see old t. It is not ethical at all to have dual roles, between t and client. I wouldn't allow it- she is not my teacher she is just my t, even though sometimes it feels like she wants to be my teacher.