A month ago I met a really nice single man, and I am happily married. My marriage has had it's difficulties, but right now it's good, and our relationship is deep and strong and has survived much. I trust in it.

This man seemed to be trying to impress me when I met him, and disapointed when he learned I am married, yet more disapointed when he met my sweet husband and saw how great he is. I see the man's loneliness and pain and I want to help him. I'm not very attracted to him, though I think he's ok looking, talented and sensitive. We cancelled our weekly sessions, all very logical and respectable. But he was nearly in tears when I left. He said he had broken up with his girlfriend, but I can tell he's been sad for longer than that.

I thought maybe we could be friends to him. I know how lonely it gets out here in this rural area, and how long the winters. I've been there myself, when it feels like the walls are caving in on you, isolation, cabin fever, poverty, self doubt.

So I suggested a place he can go to hang out, where I find social relief in the winter myself, and suggested he go for walks, get some exersise. My husband liked him, but we aren't very social people, like in terms of having him over for dinner. We've never done that with anyone other than my family. We would find it awkward.

What do you think I should do? Leave him alone? Or reach out somehow? It might be me that he's upset about, or he might have been telling the truth about the girlfriend and I'm imagining things. Either way, I like him and see someone in pain and want to do something about it.