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Originally Posted by Syra
I agree with the others about talking about it with your new T if that is possible.
I wonder if you fear of leaving the old T is not wanting to hurt her or reject her or in some way you are protecting her? Is it like that? I know I've felt like that and it was really hard.
If it's been on and off for several years, can you just look like it's another "off" time and then just not go back. I don't think you owe your therapist the truth, although I imagine it oftentimes wouldn't be as difficult for them to hear as for us to say.
Or maybe you'll learn something and wish you were back with her, and you could just go back "on." You wouldn't have to burn your bridges?
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You're right on with what you said about trying to protect my T in some ways. I had started writing that very thing in my initial post, but it didn't make much sense to me when I went back to reread it. At one point, when I felt incredibly hurt by T, I wanted to hurt her back (yes, I know that's childish). It was startling to recognize that there was really no way for me to hurt her. I could leave, but at the time that would have just hurt me.
You're right too about not burning bridges - that's definitely not something I want to do. I suck at conflict in general.