Hi firefighter369,

I think the "nice girls are attracted to bad boys because nice boys are boring" spiel is a myth. As a girl who had her fair share of dating before settling down, there's no such thing as being "too nice" in my opinion (unless you're being what I like to call 'creepy-nice', but that's another story; I had a date like that once, the guy would do the toothy smile thing and nod and say "That's so wonderful!" or "That's so insightful, you are out of this world!" at everything I said... **cringe**).

Anyway. It's hard to draw a conclusion without knowing more details about your two exes, but don't forget: sometimes, the problem isn't you - it's them. Maybe they weren't actually going for a relationship in the first place, but just a fling. The first one, the one who slept with her ex, doesn't seem like the type you'd want to keep around at any rate. It takes two to keep a flame going, so you can do your best and the girl can still leave because she doesn't want to give as much as she gets.

Could you tell me more about how a relationship goes for you? What are the things you do? How often do you spend time together? I seriously doubt you 'repel girls', as you said - but maybe we can work out on a few improvements overall. How about it?