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Originally Posted by dogzrule
Thank you so much - that is helpful. I don't have a lawyer - what I did read about lawyers is, if he shows up with one and I don't have one I can request a continuance of the temporary restraining order and postpone the hearing to give me time to get one. This website (one I was directed to from a help organization in my area) has been very helpful: WomensLaw.org | Home.
What my therapist, friends, and coworker have said is that he may not even show up. I am going fully expecting him to be there, but I don't really expect him to take this as seriously as I am. Based on his demeanor toward law enforcement when he was arrested, I don't expect him to be calm and collected, but then again, I may be wrong. |
here in New York the abuser usually does show up if for anything other than to try and make the victim out to be the abuser or to further victimize the victim..its very hard sometimes for victims to say whats going on with the abuser there glaring, and using unspoken threats that the victim has learned to interpret as the "you wait, you're going to get it now looks, postures, expressions edge to the abusers voice...
sometimes bringing a friend helps victims during these types of court hearings even if its just knowing theres moral support sitting right behind or next to the victim.
here at the crisis center we do advocy work where we are able to go in to the court rooms with the victims. and we hook the victims up with free legal aid. maybe you can get a free lawyer from your local legal aid department. and can invite someone you know and trust to be there behind or beside you during the hearing.