Hi everyone! I'm really new to this website and what brings me here is because of the last relationship I was in. I know we can't diagnose anyone but if you have further insight on what I am going to share that'd be great. So to make a very long year short here goes...

I started dating this guy I had known for years but we weren't really friends...had always been attracted to him so when we started dating sparks FLEW! Everything seemed perfect. I was madly in love with him and vise versa....so he said.

He let me in on a little "secret" that he had been in the military. Told me lots of stories about it but not to share because nobody knew. His family thought he was in GA for business. I had no real idea of his past so I believed him. He once said his exwife called the cops on him, that he took one of his ex's ex to court and won a lot of money. He said he had $20,000 in the bank, he said he wasn't talking to his most recent ex,that he started counseling with some lady....

These were all lies. Very carefully plotted lies where he would give me in MAJOR detail the conversations between him and his therapist. He started journaling about his time in Iraq too, giving me detailed descriptions of his missions and what it was like to kill someone. We wore his dog tags 247 bc it made him feel like he still belonged to something. All horrible things i thought.

Fast forward to 4 months in and please don't judge me but I was pregnant and choose to have an abortion. Yes I was in love w him but it wasn't the right time for me/us. This sadly really hurt him and he cheated on me and soon after became suicidal. He was placed in a locked floor for 5 days then did 7 weeks of an out patient program .....this is when i found out that all the "truths" were lies.

We are no longer together as of very recently and I am hurt by all that has transpired but I still am trying to understand it better. Even after the outpatient program he constantly lied...over things that didn't matter at all! And things that did matter. I know he had a horrible upbringing which is why I held on so long ....I thought I was helping.

Any take on this? I know he's out of touch with reality but don't know much more than that. Thanks for any input, I appreciate it!