Thanks Chris. I know that you probably feel solidarity with fellow teachers and put yourself in the shoes of my kid's teacher when you are reading about this stuff.

I'm not sure that I understand what you mean by this:

"It just keeps feeling like preconceived notions and misperceptions and misinterpretations and mind-reading and all of those unhealthy communication skills that as adults we know we have to get past."

My perspective is that I don't KNOW what the teacher is thinking, and I have not been able to successfully have her talk to me on a personal level. She either doesn't respond, or changes the subject, or cuts me off, or seems too busy to listen, etc. I am not reading her mind. I simply have NO idea what is going on with her.

When I told you about her behaviour during the parent/teacher conferences in front of another teacher (sweet), I meant to outline the fact that she behaves very differently IN FRONT OF OTHERS than she does to me. That points to an intentional fakeness on her part. Her THINKING that my son is weird is fine, but the fact that she (allegedly) said it in the context that she did was very unprofessional IMO. If one of my staff called a client a weirdo in front of another client, they'd be reprimanded. It's fine to think these things. It is NOT fine to say them in a public space. Perhaps teachers work by a different standard of conduct. I don't know.