It's good you are reaching out. I think that's a big step, and it's good you'd re talking to a counselor. Maybe you can bring your wife to a session that you have with your counselor and see if you can come up with ideas on how you would like her to support you, what you need, etc.

Another option would be to get a separate marriage counselor to delve into what seems to be going on with you and the wife. I do wish you luck. I, myself, have dealt with depression and gone through a divorce. I think the hardest thing to do is exactly what you are doing = trying.. And it's the best thing you can do, too. So keep it up! Hang in there