Finding support

I am at a loss and I don't know what to do for support. The past couple months I have been going on and off feeling depressed. I have a therapist and we are starting to work on things, but I only see her once a week and she isn't really support. She help me with skills and stuff and looking at things, but I can't call her or anything like that when I am having a bad day.

I am having marriage troubles and tried to rely on my wife for support but I don't think she is really there for me or helpful. She feels helpess and cries which makes me feel worse. On top of that iI am having concerns whether I want to stay with her or not.

How does someone go about building a support system. With the exception of this place I don't rely have anything else other than me. It seems like my depression is getting worse and maybe it is just part of the healing process but I feel mostly alone at the moment.

I have a couple friend but we are the type to hang out and do stuff and not the close kind of friends that I would feel comfortable sharing my mental illness with. They may or may not get it and I ruin it would just ruin the friendship. Not that they are bad friend, it is just they are more social friends.

I'm sorry that things are rough for you right now, and that you don't feel like you have any supports. I am glad you started seeing a therapist though - hopefully that will turn into someplace you can go to for support.

Have you looked into depression-centered groups in your area? Either group therapy, or just social groups? I know that I joined a meet-up site recently and was surprised to discover a couple of depression related groups - they are just social groups for people who have depression. Maybe there is something like that near you?

You said you are not comfortable talking to your friends, and I totally get that. What about family? Do you have any brothers/sisters/cousins/etc that you can talk to?

It's good you are reaching out. I think that's a big step, and it's good you'd re talking to a counselor. Maybe you can bring your wife to a session that you have with your counselor and see if you can come up with ideas on how you would like her to support you, what you need, etc.

Another option would be to get a separate marriage counselor to delve into what seems to be going on with you and the wife. I do wish you luck. I, myself, have dealt with depression and gone through a divorce. I think the hardest thing to do is exactly what you are doing = trying.. And it's the best thing you can do, too. So keep it up! Hang in there

We have went to some marriage counseling sessions. They were helpful and I tried to make things work, but I don't really feel like being with her anymore. I think she has broken my trust and I will not be able to forgive that. As in general I don't enjoy spending time with her anymore. I tried and we went on out some dates, but I can't let go of what she did and I don't think I should. Staying with her I don't see many pluses for me. I can deal with her financial issues and even her weight. I didn't like those things but they were bearable. The emmotional affair is too much. Trust is too big of an issue with me and I cannot keep doing it without having good faith the person is going to be there for me. I don't expect every moment to smell like roses, but I have no faith she will be there for me in my time of needs. I tried openeing up to her about my depression and letting her in. She responded by having an online affair. I don't think there is coming back from that and I can't find many positives other than I wont be alone.

Trust is an awesome value to put high up in the ranks, maybe #1. By setting that as a standard, you avoid many troubles with people in your life and pave the way for wonderful relationships. Just my opinion based on my experience. It also gives you a good standard to live up to.

It might help if you could find a community to be with. Many people join a church group. Many people I know have that as their main social outlet. There are volunteer groups that need help. Do a google search for your town for charitable organizations. Doing something for others is the fastest road to feeling good about yourself. Working towards shared goals is a great way to meet people.
It doesn't sound like your therapist's approach is what you need. Can you change to another one?
I hope you feel better soon.

Maybe you should change your therapist. Doesn't sound like her approach is what y

I like my therapist, it is just I only see her an hour a week and it is helpful but not really supportive. I just don't have anything to ride out the low moods with. The last couple weeks have been pretty bad, and I feel somewhat better today, but I feel like I am mostly on my own to deal with this. I tried going to my wife, but I just bring her down and the maritial problems don't help the situation her supporting me. When I do bring her down I get really self hateful and it makes it worse.

I think a different therapist may help. I was looking into dbt therapy and it seems like it could help.